Why is it, that whenever something goes wrong our intial response is to panic, breakdown and form a series of thoughts that cause us to go down a vicous spiral? Suddenly we begin believing that this small setback has an impact on our whole life. And maybe this is not everyone, but it is definitely me.
Every single time something goes wrong, all hope seems to vanish. I close myself down and enter the belief that nothing will get better. It takes time for me to cool off and clear my head before I can realize that a setback is simply just that, a setback.
I became aware of this reaction this past week when I began a new detox. 3 days into the detox I was reacting to every supplement that I put into my body. Initially, I was stumped, I didn’t know what else to do to help myself feel better, my body seemed to be highly reactive to the herbs that were supposed to help clear the overgrowth. I was proud of myself for trying them but angry with my body for rejecting things that were supposed to help heal me. I broke down. I panicked, and I closed off my mind to even allow myself to search for a solution.
I would be lying if I said that I am not still frustrated with this situation. However, I allowed my mind to clear and can realize that there has got to be another way. I can realize that shutting myself down, is essentially getting me nowhere. Through this realization, it became apparent to me that (as I talked about in my last post) there are actually two steps to trying new things. The first, is the act of trying and the second, is the mental component when things don’t work out. It is mentally hard on us when things don’t go as planned. One of the best pieces of advice I have received that helps me with this is to imagine someone you love is going through your same situation. You wouldn’t tell them it will never get better. So why are you telling yourself that?
The truth is, we are going to get frustrated when things do not go our way, and that is okay. Getting frustrated is a normal part of living. However give it time first and allow your mind to clear before jumping to any conclusions. As I have said before, there Is always another way, it just not may be the way that you had planned on.
“Our minds are like water, when it is turbulent it is difficult to see. When it is calm, everything becomes clear.”
Let the waters clear and know that everything will be okay. You have the power to get out of any situation. It just may not be the easy way you hoped for.